Taking control to show up at your best is simple thing to say, but a complicated thing to accomplish. If you want to be more productive, be more optimistic, and more in control of your life you need to make sure you are taking advantage of the opportunity to do so.
People want to be at their best, however, the chaotic nature of daily life can get in their way. Even with the most well planned preparation, things outside of our control can quickly derail our efforts. All it takes is a little traffic, a cryptic text, or a slow internet connection to put our day into a tailspin.
When faced with daily frustrations, many people ask the question “Why is this happening to me?”. This is a horrible question. When we ask it of ourselves it give us permission to wallow in self-pity instead of taking control of what we can change. You should be asking yourself “Why do these things bother me?”. This question gives the power back to you in that moment.
You are in charge of taking control of the things you have the power to impact. No one can control things outside of our direct influence. However, you can control how much you allow those things impact you. The one thing we can always control is our response.
Many people believe that something happens them and that causes the outcome. The truth of the matter is that whatever event happens, we always have the ability to adjust and control our response.
We teach children that we need to be in control of our emotions, but as adults we often forget that advice. If you want to be at your best, control your emotions and your response.
Life would be much less dramatic if people chose to respond instead of reacting. We faced with a tense situation it can be overwhelming emotionally. Logical and rational thought are physiologically impossible in times of deep emotions. How can we remember to pause and respond?
If you want to be in control of your emotions you must first admit the emotions you are feeling. Denying a fear, anxiety, or worry only entrenches you in victimhood. The first step to choosing the right response is to admit the emotion you are feeling and then taking the first logical step to address the challenge. You have to take control of the things you can and accept the things you cannot.
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